In what language are you looking for chat resources? I might be able to help you with more information. Hang in there. Thanks.

jcather 00:25, January 3, 2012 (UTC)jcather

January 3 by Jcather

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I am looking for Mandarin chat resources. Thanks.

January 3 by A Wikia contributor

I could not find any Mandarin chat resources, yet I found S.U.C.C.E.S.S. Chinese Help Lines at 604-270-8222 in British Columbia from 10am-10pm. Their website is http://www.successbc.ca/eng/component/option,com_mtree/task,viewlink/link_id,10/Itemid,26/. They might know about chat resources. Check out the website first, perhaps. I apologize this is the best I can find. Take care. jcather 16:21, January 26, 2012 (UTC)jcather

January 26 by Jcather

No one is ever responsible for someone's suicide except the person themselves. Suicide is a choice they make in a difficult time, rather than seeking help. She is desperately in need of help and you cannot provide it for her. You can refer her to PostSecret Chat, where she can post about her situation http://www.postsecretcommunity.com/chat/, and you can refer her to this PostSecret Suicide Prevention Directory to find help. You have to stop feeling responsible for her suicidal thoughts and/or action. Right now she is manipulating you into feeling responsible, but you are not. She has the responsibility to seek help and stop manipulating you. You are a kind person, and I can imagine this is painful for you also. You may want more support by posting about your situation to PostSecret Chat as well. You need support during this time as well.

jcather 03:33, October 12, 2011 (UTC)jcather

October 12, 2011 by Jcather

I can relate to what you are describing. I broke up with my ex this past June, and he had a difficult time letting me go. There were multiple issues with the relationship for quite sometime, mostly due to a big mistake that I made. He would say things like "You make me want to die .... kill myself... etc..." After we broke up we tried being friends, but it just didn't work. He asked me if I wanted to get together over Christmas and I decided it wouldn't be a good idea for a variety of reasons. I told him that I didn't mind e-mailing, or talking on the phone every so often, but did not think meeting up in person was a good idea at that time. He responded with "Fine. I hope to never see you again. You've hurt me so much...." This was so hard for me to take and really hurt. Then he randomly joined facebook and friended my mom. It was so strange. I finally, with the help of a therapist, came to the conclusion that he was using facebook to try to hang onto me in a weird way. He was focusing on the pain, and I was trying to focus on the healing, which is the whole point. I'm not sure how he is feeling now. Hopefully he has realized that his path is not a healthy one, and is now focusing on the healing process. I think this is similar to your situation. You are trying to focus on the healing, and you ex is focusing on the pain. Hopefully she will soon realize that her path is not a healthy one. You are trying to create space to help the healing. You are not responsible for her feelings. How she feels is her choice, not yours. I would encourage her to seek counseling - and I would encourage you to seek your own counseling to help you come to terms with this relationship. Take care of yourself.

March 25 by A Wikia contributor

I encourage you to post your comment on the PostSecret Community Chat http://www.postsecretcommunity.com/chat/. Your conflict is known by other people. Post it to the PostSecret Chat, and you will find people with whom to talk. Deep inside, we all want someone else to be in control; it eases our burden. Yet, taking control does not have to be in conflict with letting others sometimes being in control. Hope you post to PostSecret Chat.

September 17, 2011 by Jcather